“Before I know it, my Scorpio will be cheating on me and expect that I will stick around, out of my sheer commitment to him/her. If I give an inch, he/she will take a mile.”

My goodness, you are grossly misled. A true Scorpio doesn’t even think about cheating, much less does it. We are too focused (obsessed) with the current object of our affection to even blink an eye at anyone else.

If a Scorpio does cheat, it’s because they never cared about you in the first place really, or they have cut you out and you just don’t matter anymore.

Sounds pretty black and white, but then, Scorpio is.

Whoa, so many games.

Again, I don’t think a Scorpio would cheat if they really truly loved someone.

This sounds more like an unevolved one.

As much as I dislike being taken for a ride by anyone, the behaviour of a Scorpio male is completely understandable to me. I am a Sag woman with a Cancer moon so I feel things very deeply and always have since I was a child. I also love to feel free while being close to someone at the same time, which may be the Sag in me. I like to have a strong sense of who I am as an individual, while devoting myself to the person I adore.

I can feel the intensity and see the whirling emotions in the eyes of the Scorpio man I want to be with. I can feel he somehow knows what my feelings are inside and me being me, I cannot do what he can do and hide them very well. Mine well up and overflow no matter how hard I try to hold them back. I think this vulnerability in me makes him feel safer.

I know what a gift and a curse it is to feel so much. I battled with it as a child myself, being a weird mix of happy go lucky one minute in the company of people I trusted, then intensely shy and easily hurt the next. Like a vortex drawing in everything, be it good or bad. Its very hard and it takes years to know how to deal with this. Therefore Scorpio male behavior although hurtful is logical for him and I can see where he is coming from. No other type of man can delve into the emotional depths and I have huge respect for this. It is a beautiful thing.

I have been tested and I was broken hearted, but my love made me want to preserve the friendship at least. I admitted to him I was jealous and felt terrible and since then he has opened up to me more. I think he was trying to see how much I cared and it was obvious I did. I knew in my heart when all others were righting him off as only a player and sex magnet that there was more to him and he wanted real love. In fact, his desire to bed females galore to me was almost like a sign that what he was tasting was not at all fulfilling and deep enough. Moments of pleasure that disappeared in seconds with women who were just easy to obtain and not even that attractive (some of them). A lonely way to be I think. I could feel it when we were sexual together. Sex cannot be that amazing if there are no feelings at all, no way on earth and I was right.

You are so right about the testing and reasons behind it. Totally 100% spot on. Its almost like you have to be without too much of an ego, in order to stick with a Scorpio. Remember they feel so deeply they need to be sure you won’t hurt them. If you love them truly, you will know in your heart that this is what they are doing. Initially it was like being stabbed in the chest, but I still loved him and people said to me that he wanted to see my reaction. That meant it was important the way I reacted, so he must be looking for something. If he wasn’t interested he wouldn’t bother, was the way I looked it and things have moved on and I am amazed and happy but so afraid he will hurt me as much as he is afraid I will hurt him.

I will keep loving him and hopefully the wall will continue to gradually come down. Thankfully I have a lot of patients and a busy life of my own and know it is worth waiting for.

ok so me and my bf are both scorpios. i am a female and i do feel as though i have to test him because i know how my kind is. because we both are intuitive, its hard to read him so there fore im automatically suspicious of his love for me. hes very clingy to me and wants to be with me all the time but yet i steel have that wall up because im afraid to let him love me. im afraid hes ganna hurt me bad. i tested him by creating what i call a “sexy stranger” on facebook and he actually hitted on”me” after i held my emotions in i just exploded i wanted to know why he told “the sexy stranger” what he told her. it bothered me because we’ve been together for 7 months now and yea we fell in love quick because we understood each other and were sexually attracted to one another and because 2 scorpios just cant help but to notice one another. but i no he loves me im just scared now that he failed my test how can i retrust him fully. hes so attached to me but i cant read him to know if hes fucking with my emotions and normally i can right off with men. but only time will tell unless anyone knows the answer

After 40 years of relationship horseshit, THIS Double Skorp/Moon in Taurus/Venus in Skorp ONLY does professional relationships. And I’m polyamorous–I never make a bet that I can’t hedge.

Dear Leo-Scorp,

I am not a Scorpio but my sister is and her partner is a Leo. I have never seen my sister happier, more supported or in a better relationship situation, the Leo is perfect for her, however she still puts the Leo through the same old B.S. that she has put everyone through. Scorpios get bored and that’s why they create the drama, they need something to do. Marriage is probably a boring concept or word to her, although I am sure she pushed for this step dogmatically.

A scorpio woman needs control and power in the relationship and they know exactly where their power exists, sexual. She is using her sexual prowess to gain control of the situation with the opposite sex, she wants to make sure she still has it before getting married and then what? What’s the next step? What could she possibly push for after marriage?

Stand your ground, quiet stable Lion. You love her. Follow your heart and let her have her crazy time, its not you, and if you can handle the emotional and psychological abuse, awesome for her!

This is so, so true. I have just recently dumped a scorpio as he was truly testing me over and over again. Became very abusive, manipulative and used emotional blackmail to get money out of me saying that is “love”. I am a very independent Aries with a Pisces rising (scorpio decan) and Gem. moon. I also have Saturn in Scorpio in the 8th and Mars on the MC. I am very, very strong and value my integrity, dignity and self-worth. I think he underestimated my strength and determination. At the moment, he is threatening me to no end as I have changed my numbers and have not contacted him or responded to any of his emails. Is a scorpio sting as harsh as their words and threats?

I’m A Scorpio with an Aquarius Ascendant and Libra Moon, and I felt deeply attached to a Scorpio guy. I wanted to get sexually involved, and then two days later he broke up with me. WTF? I asked him if I was going to fast to tell me, and he didn’t. I thought I could understand me and then he just left me. I just want a guy to love me. What star sign would be a good match? (Moon sign or sun sign maybe?)

I’d like to clear up a few things about Scorpion women. First of all, I am also a Leo and I love my Scorpion wife. Why? Because in spite of all that I’ve read here, there are some generalities about them being dis-loyal, testing, withdrawing, aloof, etc., that I would like to address. There are a lot of misconceptions about female scorpios. First, they are deeply passionate about EVERYTHING they do, think or feel. especially when it comes to their family, kids and friends. When it comes to relationships, they will never do anything to cause themselves to be or feel vulnerable. The only way they would ever put themselves in this situation is AFTER the person has proven to be sincere/genuine, loyal and most important strong (they hate weakness). My wife is an amazing person, deeply rooted feelings that can go beyond the superficial feelings that most people claim as “feelings”! It’s complicated, yet it’s what matters most to them when others have tread on them. In a scorpio’s mind, they cannot understand why others would purposely hurt them. Yes, it frustrates some who can’t comprehend their secretive nature, or the moments of what appears that they are hiding something (no one would understand their secrets anyway). Truth is, they will always be hiding something! You can either accept it and be assured that what they are hiding is best left in their mind, or you can get pissed off because you just can’t stand it that they might be hiding something from you. So if you think you’re going to ask a battery of questions in hopes they’ll share openly with you – you’ve lost your mind (good luck with this approach) If you really have lost your mind, go for it pal! Trust me on this, you WILL have your ass handed to you (like a harpoon in the chest from her needle-sharp stinger) and you’ll understand fully that the consequences are simply NOT worth it (saying NOTHING would be the better option).

Furthermore, the key to understanding the scorpion female is to accept her, “as is” not as you’d like for her to be. Do NOT be weak and petty or she will not respect you at all – you’ll not get her sympathy anyhow. She is a fierce competitor, passionate and driven. Her obsessions are simply a part of the transformation that keeps her life exciting (scorpion women hate boredom or stagnant living). What I like best about my scorpion is that she is unapologetic for who she is – yes, even as the misunderstood Scorpio! I love my Scorpio, and those of you men who have been chosen by a scorpion, you better make a conscious decision early to either accept her or not, tell her everything about yourself with out expecting the same in return (awww, you might get a little bit, but only what she wants you to know). And in return, if she truly loves you, you’ll get to reap the benefits of a woman who loves deeply, who is intensely sexual, loyal, and her magnetism will last a lifetime.

I agree, Leo and Scorpio are perfect together……besides, I love it when she s-l-o-w-l-y pierces me with her stinger! ; )

I mean within a few times..sometimes minutes of actually meeting them. I have a weird effect on people.

Ok, anyone that says Scorpios are loyal is just straight-out lying. I have lived with Scorpios since birth, including having 1 parent who is a Scorpio, a sibling that is a Scorpio and a nearly a 2 decade relationship with a Scorpio. The last thing in the world that Scorpios are is faithful, they are in fact quite deceptive and overly interested in the opposite sex and in flirting and having a great time with others while they are in a relationship. Of course, the definition of cheating to Scorpio means, that they and only they (not their partner) may do whatever they please as long as they don’t have sex with another person and that is what they consider not cheating. But their partner on the other hand must not even so much as look into the eye of another even by accident. Another thing, all of this talk about scorpio testing and why they do it. The answers here on this site as to why Scorpios do it are all wrong. Scorpio test because they enjoy it. They love to screw with you in any way they please, and they have a lot of fun in the process. Then when we all cry and suffer and ask, why, why for the love of god do I have to go through this hell, then, our scorpio will try to explain it all away as testing. Don’t buy it, scorpios just test because they like it, they want to see just what it is that will make each person they know get to the limit. They want to know how far they can push, and what upsets you. Why do they want to know that, well to use it in the future for ammunition against you, someday when they are board and have nothing better to do than to stir up a nasty, worthless, fight with you for the purposes of their own entertainment. Evil and cruelty, it is all part of the fun for Scorpio. In the end, they don’t give a damn if their testing hurts us, what matters to them is that they were entertained momentarily in the process.

@ SurroundedSinceBirth

Yes, what repulsiveness. Sick, sadistic, and cruel. The lower types get their sexual/psycho kicks from this. They love to see you squirm like a bug being burned over a lighter or under a magnifying glass. The scorpio would always say to me, “I just want to see what the fuck you are on….”

-What motherf***er, drugs…or is that some ghetto-a** way of seeing how I tick?

I still find myself wishing he was dead. Meanwhile, he’s on to the next victim, complaining to her about how horrible and crazy I was in the process, neglecting the fact that he was an STD SPREADING PHILANDERER. He always tried to use the fact that he made more money than me as part and parcel to his superiority over me. But that’s okay, a person has to be seriously suffering if they’d use something as superficial as that.

If you can’t make sense of the lower-manifestation of Scorpio, it’s only because you are blinded by their NPD or whatever other issues they might have.

Narcissistic self-posession resolves most of these issues for me. Rampant polyamory solves the remainder.

There is pseudo intellectualism, and then, there is soulful acceptance… the brave seeking of ‘Real Life’ experiences.

Answers for our personal fears, cannot find resolve or resolution through the infatuations of the human intellect.

An emotional intellect, however… has learned savagely through real-world lessons. And has become greater as a result of those lessons.

Love and becoming to all. Regardless of obstacles.

Well said Pluto. I cannot comment with any authority on emotional issues; however I know the sound of reason and reality. I would rather go through the ringer sorting out my own and understanding her own emotions as it pertains to our immediate relationship than settle for some fake understanding of one another. It is worth it to suffer in order to find out and uncover everything about one another. The woman who dates a scorpio [mature one] knows [because she chooses to stay] that their is something so real and genuine about him. It may take more time than she originally felt was acceptable to uncover it but we are worth it. I know I am. I want the real deal and ill not mess around when it comes down the real issues of compatibility, ill fightcha until I have what I need to know.

Both my partner and I are scorps.. We’ve both previously been in several relationships with other people and it has always ended badly. When we first met I was with someone else and he had just ended his previous relationship. We did not consciously pursue each other but a year later we were both with each other. We have been together for more than a year and a half now and I have never felt as calm and contented with my life as I do now. We love being around each other. We don’t always do things together but we can’t bear to be apart. For instance, he loves photography but I barely manage to take a decent picture. But we go out together and I read a book while he takes pictures. However much he loves taking pictures, he won’t go out without me. We just feel restless and disturbed when the other is not around. We can go for months without socializing with a single person apart from each other. It just feels like we don’t need anything or anyone else.