scorpios suck! their demands are unrelenting and unrealistic! their heads remain squarely up their own assess and they view their lovers and friends as either an extension of themselves or their own discoveries. like yu couldnt have existed before yoy met them.

Is there anything that works for the people, or are they just always going to be in what is in their mind “an unsatisfied” relationship. They are always excited (hopeful) about the new and distantly available (married, different city, already involved), however they have little respect for the gems of their blessings. They disrespect the cheater, but when they “dip out” on the side (emotionally) they don’t seem to think anything is wrong with it.

They “seem” to be some of the most mature, independent people I have met, but the record of there activities are filled with aborted beginnings, and abandoned involvements; which is to me very immature. When you have their attention you have their complete attention, even if the attention is disingenuous, one often gets the dedication of their focus. Thus they are loyal in the attention, but not in their focus. Which is strange because, its the intensity of their “focus” not their attention, that drives them. Thus, they often will sacrafice a good thing (become emotionally unvailable to it) in pursuit of another involvement (person, job, situation etc) that is doomed from the start, however, this new emotional lust has somehow captured their focus.

They have serious falling outs with people because their sneakiness is so very difficult to detect so their mates bombarded with mixed signals. Then when it all crashes down, they blame their mates, and more pityfully, they goes as far as to even deny their commentment. Take it one more step, they even chestize their mates accusing them of being disallusioned about the relationship, and that their “dipping out” is none of your business.

These people are strange.

Again, I ask what works? Yet again, who in the hell cares. The more important question is how do you get away once you have been seduced by these creatures. You know the care and care deeply, the hard part is always about who, what, and at what time. I am not sure how that have been characterized as being loyal. I find that not to be the case at all. It is my opinion that this notion of their “loyalty” is what leads to so much conflict and drama. The loyalty that have for “new” friends and “old” friends are the same, even the “old” friend has paid way more dues.

Listen, I have been swept up by one these types and I am upset about it, because I am having a rough time escaping. My Scorpio relatives never bother me and I always thought they were nice people. Now, however, that I have been in a romantic relationship with a scorpio, I completely understand why my relatives are 38+, attractive, still alone (with children), and somewhat unhappy about it. I have always known them (Scorpio relatives) to be discrete which is not a problem in casual relationships, it’s a big problem in romantic relationships though. These people will change the rules of the game and you (as a mate) will never know that the rules have change. What was out of bounds is in, and what was in-bounds is out. Either way you are shit out of luck because you are out of bounds or not living up to the new set of expectations.

The other problem with these people is this notion that they never go back. Which is bullshit for any relationship. Hell people make mistakes, even Scorpios, But these people leave no room for a second chance, either pursuing a second chance or giving someone a second chance. The female Scorpios that I know had people in their lives that worked (problem sure but worked nonetheless). Once they broke up that was the end of it, even if the Scorpio regretted the decision, there was still no turning around.

Anyway… I can go on but I have too much work to do and I am kicking myself for giving a Scorpio even more my time.

I have a theory i’ve een developing in my chaotic mind about scoprios. i believe wherever your weakness is, is what they will naturally exploit, even if they do so subconciously. The less weaknesses you have, the less they can destroy. I almost feel they are the true mirror of the self fullfilling prophecy. If you engage them fearful, they instinctively smell it and will ensure you were correct to be afraid. If you take them on confidently and without apprehension, they are proud to uphold that honor you have bestowed. In short, whatever vibe you put out or what you focus on, a scorprio will reflect to you.

I don’t know. Thoughts anyone?

hi!!!!!!
i m a scorp n i was really suprised with all of this hostility against scorpios…
ok,so maybe sumtimes v may play power games… bt v r vry focused…in our relationships… n ya…wen v make a decision v stick wid it even if v regret it….sry, bt all scorps r different

@ Marie. See what I’m saying. Your message is completely about you and what it takes to “earn” you. Well frankly, my issue with Scorpios it that they are not really worth the cost of “earning” them. They don’t give anywhere close to what the require and when they do, it is often disingenious, which by the way they confuse with deep caring. Scorps cut of people (completely) as soon as their a bump in the road. The small bumps starts the disconnect and from their it is all down hill and it is just a matter of time before they completely disconnect. They percieve that they are being wronged because they don’t quite have the ability to understand how their actions and behavior, particularly their diconnecting behaviors, drives people (good and kin people) absolutely made.

Dear Confused,

It’s after all a Scorpio blog, how can you blame Marie for expressing herself? Don’t you want to come here to learn more about Scorpio?
It’s best to share your personal encounters with the “bad eggs” among Scorpio, so they can tell you how to avoid them best.Your hatred will make you blind and easily make the same mistake twice.Everyone will have some bad experience now and then.If you can forgive and forget, it’d be easier for your life.
Best of luck,

All these comments here are surprising to say the least. I think what you guys are talking about are bad people, who happened to be scorpios. Maybe you found them in business settings because some scorpios are generally quicker to rise in their careers? And they just happened to be bitchy on the side–which is something I can say for a lot of people in key positions in some industries–part of the ruthlessness required to get on top, maybe? I agree scorpios have a natural intensity, but for the most part, I do think their early values influence them a lot. You have to see where your scorpio is coming from, emotionally speaking. Scorpios can take on tough circumstances much better than most people, and emerge stronger, but that doesn’t mean they’ll play mindgames or try to hurt you. That said, the emotional demands of a scorpio are considerably vast, therefore one should only really get involved if they themselves have such intensity. Leo, aries, gemini do not go well with me, but pisceans, taureans, cancerians and virgo–i end up mostly loving or atleast respecting these signs.
Another interesting point here–i think there’s a cultural difference thing going on here–I’m from South Asia, where we’re brought up with a reserved moral code, and i know that if a scorpio takes strong values to heart, such as fidelity, fairness and compassion, they will probably hold on to it a lot more strongly than some other people, whatever the circumstances might be. Also, there may be people like marie, but honestly, I haven’t met them, and as such cannot consider her opinion a scorpio-specific phenomenon.. I do not consider her opinion representative of the vast majority of scorpios, as in ‘no bling no girl’. Yes, we like to be spoiled, and are great spoilers ourselves, but most scorpios think of a hundred more important qualities first.
We cannot be with someone we do not respect. It just depends on what different people end up considering respect-worthy: money, or power or integrity or soul or great friendship. Because of their strength and tenacity, a scorpio is often able to forego practical concerns in the face of what they consider truly honorably qualities. I do not like to play hard to get–it takes time for me to open up, and then again, only after somebody repeatedly tries to reach me–they might draw me out. But ‘hard to get’ and these manipulative games are truly disgusting, and are more the reflection of what kind of things you’ve absorbed. If you’ve been taught through your society, or peers or learned through observation–and scorpios are particularly keen observers and learners–that Action A leads to Reward, they will hold on to that with particularly intensely, and if it’s a bad thing they’ve learned in the beginning, then unfortunately, it will be rather difficult to eliminate as scorpios are not easy to change. That said, there are good people and there are bad people, and I’m sorry for those of you that have had bad experiences, but i can say that that is more related to particular circumstances than any real generalization about the scorpio character. That’s just my opinion. Anyone agree?

To “confused” I love your candid comments, and join the club

Perhaps Eggs Benedict would be a classier combination, or green eggs and ham

Over-easy, poached or coddled . . .

I guess it depends whose pan you land in lol

Why is everyone focusing on the bad traits of a scorpio?

Lets not forget, they’re:
-passionate
-creative
-artistic
-determined
-loyal

They’re also very sensitive. So, trash talking won’t get you on their good side.