Here’s the basic scenario, which varies very little from case to case: You meet a Scorp and, for some reason only you can understand at that moment, he fascinates you. What is it?

• Is it the way he practically stalks you wherever you go? Is it his piercing gaze that never loosens it’s grip when he’s in your vicinity?
• Is it the audacity of his words that make you blush with the feeling that you’ve just been stripped naked in public?
• Is it his sharp wit that makes your conversations the funniest, deepest, easiest you’ve ever encountered?
• Is it that frustrating feeling that you never really know anything personal about him?
• Is it the feeling of utter security you have in his presence? Is it the barely detectable undercurrent of earth-shattering emotions that vibrate in his being, or is it his gorgeous, super sensual, hyper masculine looks?
• Or, God forbid, is it, if you’re unlucky enough, ALL of the above???

From the moment of the first glance … or word … or vibe that made you both notice each other, it may take a lot or a little until an actual significant move is being made. You may be the first to make it, or it may be him. You may have to go through excruciatingly long periods of time when all that you do is chat, gaze and hardly touch each other. You may barely meet. You may have to exchange witty hints, cheeky looks, light brushes against his body and all of this may seem to take an eternity. Or you may not … you may get straight to business.

But no matter what, you definitely have to be a certain kind of woman. It’s up to each Scorp to decide what that is to him, so I can’t reveal a general list of traits you must exhibit. You definitely have to be emotionally strong, patient, passionate, sensual, stable, trustworthy, deep, sensitive and caring. There. I gave you a list. But unfortunately this is not all. There’s that “thing” you have to have to ignite his interest, and THAT differs from Scorp to Scorp. And then there’s a set of interests, pursuits and expectations that have to match or intrigue his – but that’s more for the long run. I’m saying this, because attracting a Scorp and keeping him are totally different things, and right now, we’re only talking about the first stages…

So, once the first steps have been taken, the attraction acknowledged and the ice broken, you find yourself with this unusual creature you get strange chills around, and you want more. And he’ll definitely make sure that you do! Well, this is not something specific to Scorpio males only. It is normal to want more of something you like. What’s specific to Scorp males, however, at least to the one’s I’ve known, is what they do to keep you wanting more.

While other males might always start slow and go into a steady crescendo, Scorp males literally siege you. They exhibit hot passion right from the start. The things they tell you or do for you might take other males months to admit or do. You’re practically swept off your feet. You’re stunned, paralyzed, hypnotized. They immediately declare their enormous attraction to you, they say things about you you’d only dream of thinking yourself. They wrap you into their arms and you feel such fire you can barely believe it’s real. They look deep into your soul and seem to discover some of your deepest wants and needs, some of your darkest secrets and never admitted desires. And they seem to fulfill exactly that. They give you whatever you need and keep doing it until you’re irreversibly hooked. They act exactly like drugs. They slowly create addiction and co-dependence. They make themselves irresistible and irreplaceable.

You think, “Is he the one? Can he be anything less, when he’s seen so many deep, beautiful things about me that other men took a long time to discover and appreciate? Oh, God! Is he for real? Am I that beautiful, smart, fascinating, charismatic, sexy, desirable and practically unique creature? Is it going to be like this forever? Can I NOT want to spend my every second with him? Can I NOT dream of having his babies? Can I NOT ask him to marry me?”

But, ooopsss… That’s where you can fail and ruin such a wonderful thing. I’m not saying that everything he says or does may or may not be genuine. I’m just saying that your next step is crucial. Because, whatever you may hear, whatever he may do, his heart is not yet given. He hasn’t fallen in love with you, he has fallen in lust!!! He wants you, he wants to own you, control you, he wants to make love to you, he might even beg for it, in the sweetest, most passionate way ever, but he hasn’t fallen for you. While, you, my poor dear, might have!

So be careful! Your next move is everything. You may fall fast and deep and start needing his passion and companionship every second of every day and clinging to his every glance, word, kiss, hug … breath, or … you may be smart. The first option is, as I so painfully found out on my own, the wrong one. So the second is, logically, the winner.

Now don’t get me wrong. Being smart doesn’t imply being hurtful, cheating, game-playing, selfish, insensitive, immature, distant and frigid. It means doing or being whatever you did/was that attracted him to you in the first place. Keep being your sexy, cheeky, witty, sparkly, unpredictable, “bitchy” yet sensitive, trustworthy, caring and nurturing self. Keep up his interest! Make sure he doesn’t find out too soon when or whether you have fallen for him. Keep him guessing. Show him you’re a confident, strong, independent woman, with a life of her own. With your strong beliefs and passions, with your unbreakable set of values and ambitions. Always be true to yourself and never change just to please him. You’re either naturally good for him or you might as well drop it. Don’t make the mistake of switching from dating mode to relationship mode fast, cause he sure ain’t. Besides, the longer you take, the better you get to know him and the surer you are if he is/isn’t worth something serious. Don’t worry. As long as you keep it really harmless and fun and as long as you don’t overdo it, he’ll love it! With Scorp males there is a delicate balance between being bitchy and sensitive, assertive and submissive, unpredictable and stable, one that you have to instinctively find on your own. Nobody will be able to tell you the exact recipe. Not even them!

That’s why they are so exciting! They are not only this way themselves, they require you to be the same! In a world of double-standards – which is the Scorpio world – this is the fairest thing they allow. And the most challenging.

So, dear ladies, poor victims of the Enigma that Stings, don’t ever get fooled by their beautiful words and passionate loving. Their heart is a long, hard way from being totally yours. It will take months/years of literally hard labor and patience, they will put you through heaven and hell and they will test the sh*t out of you until they find it’s safe enough to entrust you with that most treasured, vital possession. So do the same! Think hard, think really hard! Assess him as objectively as you can … assess him as if you were buying him and paying with all your savings! We’re talking about investing your heart here, not just anything. And only if you find him worth your time and emotions, I repeat: only if you find him worthy of you, start traveling that long path!

Good luck!